What thoughts or feelings did you feel when reading these six romantic relationships, alone or with your partner? Are there certain areas where you think you need to work a little harder as individuals or as a couple? How can you imagine that these relationship agreements reinforce your commitment as a couple? Try to think about which of these agreements you think would be most useful to your own relationship. Can you today choose one of these agreements that you can work on as a couple? [ The friend and friend are out of here. The partners are inside. Here`s why more millennia change how they define their relationships.] As a couple, we are committed to being aware of dichotomous thinking that leads to differences of opinion and to practicing more flexible thinking. We agree that none of us are the sole owner of the truth and that we will both have our opinion on business. We are committed to seeing the other person`s point of view, even if he (perhaps, above all) is radically different from ours. Psychological, psychological and physical abuse cannot be tolerated under any circumstances. Any form of abuse violates this agreement. Separation is necessary. Both parties are strongly advised to seek treatment.
We agree that as fallible people, we will sometimes lose sight of these agreements. None of us are perfect. When this happens, we agree to help each other return to these agreements and continue to work towards building a loving relationship in which we both feel listened to, respected and understood. Developing a relationship agreement is an essential way to achieve clarity and adaptation to your long-term goals within a couple. For example, it is assumed that intimacy and romance are the food that nurtures a relationship, but they depend on the intent behind romantic gestures and the kind of intimacy that thrives in a relationship. Thus, through fruitful discussions, couples will be able to resolve unnecessary misunderstandings and uncertainties. In the dating coach Logan Ury uses for her relationship contract workshop – which she and co-director Hannah Hughes organized for full classrooms at SXSW and the San Francisco General Assembly – Ury contains a „self-reflection sheet“ in which each partner takes into account their own values and relationship needs, and a section where they meet to develop a common agreement. „It`s about being really wanted by how to approach relationships, how to approach yourself, to develop skills, to create something with another person,“ said Ury, who moved on to this job after leading Google`s behavioral economics team.